Vaishali & Rajesh

Vaishali married Rajesh

At the end of reception party, Vaishali's mother gave her newly opened joint signature saving account passbook. She told Vaishali & Rajesh to visit the bank so that they can start operating their first joint saving's account & start saving money for a cause and for happy married life.

As a good gesture, her mother also deposited INR Rs. 1,000/- and in passbook she wrote in pencil "My beloved daughter got married". Mother said 'Vaishali, please take this passbook as a gift from me on your wedding. Please keep it as a record of your marriage life. When something great happens in your married life and/or some great memorable event happens in your married life? Deposit some more money in to it. While doing so, please also write it down about the event against each record/deposit. The more memorable event's are, deposit more money. I have deposited first 1K for both of you. When you look back after few years? Both of you can know how much happiness both of you brought in your married life by looking at the passbook.

Vaishali was thrilled with this innovative idea + concept. Both of them left for honeymoon. Both of them thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made. This (following deposits) was what both of them did after honeymoon namely:-

• 2nd deposit Rs.100 first birthday celebration of Rajesh after marriage
• 3rd deposit Rs. 100 first birth day celebration of Vaishali after marriage
• 4th deposit Rs.300 salary increment for Vaishali
• 5th deposit Rs.200 vacation trip to Simla, Kulu, Manali, Delhi, Agra, Taj Mahal,
• 6th deposit Rs.2000 Vaishali got pregnant
• 7th deposit Rs.1000 Rajesh got promoted as manager
• 8th deposit Rs. 5000 Vaishali & Rajesh became proud mother & father of sweet & cute daughter
• 9th deposit Rs. 5000 When they bought 1 bed room flat in Hinjewadi (IT Park of Pune city)
• 10th deposit Rs. 5000 When Vaishali left to US for 15 days for on-site software development project
• 11th deposit Rs. 5000 When Rajesh left for Singapore to attend 4 days business conference
• 12th deposit Rs. 5000. When both of them bought Maruti Wagon R car

However after 5 years or so, they started fighting, arguing, debating on small small things like:-

• Who will do daily cleaning of the house?
• Who will cook? Who will serve? Who will keep used plates in bathroom for washing? Who will wash the plates when maid servant not available?
• Who will wash cloths using washing machine? Who will go to laundry and deposit cloths for ironing? Who will bring cloths back from laundry?
• Who will make tea? Who will serve tea? Who will wash tea cups? Who will bring milk? Who will keep milk in fridge after boiling?
• Who will clean entire house on weekly basis when maid servant not available?
• Who will clean basin, toilet & bathroom daily?
• Who will clean fans + tubes on weekly basis when maid servant not available?
• Who will call electrician? Who will pay electrician charges?
  
• Who will feed new born baby?
• Who will bring grocery?
• Who will go to bank to deposit the money/withdraw?
• Who will pay electricity bill?
• Who will pay property tax bill?
• Who will pay water tax bill?
• Who will pay society bill?
• Who will pay mobile bill?
• Who will take the baby to doctor?
• Who will buy medicine? Who will pay for medicine?
• Who will buy vegetables? Who will wash them? Who will cut them?
• Who will deposit dust in common dust collection area within the society?
• And endless list of task which they never ever discussed before getting married. No one told them. They didn't asked any one before marriage and they didn't talked to anyone before marriage.
• Please also note & remember. Giving birth is a God gift received only by female community. But other than that, every task in hand as mentioned above, can be done & can be executed by both the partners + family members within home. Members must know their roles before hand. No single human (husband, wife, son, daughter, uncle, aunt, father-in-law, mother-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law & above all maid servant ) can do all the task daily, month after month & year after year.
• Distribution of work is an art. In professional language, we call that as task list. Some professionals also call it as KRA's & KPA's. There is no difference between marriage, running a business, developing software project, constructing infrastructure, etc. There has to be a strict discipline with SOP's in place. Scope document for marriage is must.

But since role clarity was not there. KRA's & KPA's were not in place. For first few days, both of them (Vaishali & Rajesh), were in different world. They never discussed about this subject, task in hand, who will do what, when, what time, etc.

But after few years and that too when kid was born? They regretted that they got married. They hated each other (complete absurd thinking). No more love. They started sleeping in different room. Kind of typical scenario now-a-days one can hear (plus watch) across India. One can also watch this in all TV serials bombarded on masses in all Indian languages....huh?

One fine day Mrs. Vaishali called her mother. 'Mom, we can't stand each other anymore. We agreed to part away. I can't imagine & believe how the hell I decided to get marry with this pathetic & ugly guy?

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Regular scene we all can watch/read now a days in cities like Pune, Bangalore, Mumbai, Delhi, Hyderabad, Chennai, Kolkata, etc. where both {husband & wife} are earning Indian rupees {more than their expectations & more than their day to day needs and in turn that extra money creates huge ego for both the partners thinking that they can do anything with the money. And there is no need for partner, relatives, relationship & so on}, no joint family structure & partners are living in nuclear family structure, no parents around & their help, no grand parents around and their help, etc.

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Mother in deep voice said 'Sure Vaishali. That's not a big deal. Just do whatever you want to do since it is your life. We have no idea what is the problem since we are staying far away from Pune back in Ratnagiri (Ratnagiri is one of the district in Maharashtra). And if both of you really can't stand each other? It is always better to part away. But....but....but......before that do me a small favour. Do you remember saving passbook that I had given it to you on your wedding day? First go and visit Bank. Take out all the money both of you deposited on various happy moments. First spend entire money. Honestly both of you shouldn't keep any record for the failure of your marriage.

Vaishali agreed since she thought it was true. She went to bank. Since it was Monday, there was crowd. She filled up the form for withdrawal. While she was waiting in line? She looked at the passbook and narration she wrote in pencil against each deposit made. She looked at it. She looked for number of times. Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up in her mind like a 3 hour movie. Suddenly she also visualized (and remembered) Hindi movie by name "Akele Hum Akele Tum". Her eyes were filled with full of tears. She instantly left the bank and came back home without withdrawing money.

In the evening, when Rajesh arrived back home, she handed over the passbook to him and requested him to withdraw money and requested him to spend total money before getting divorce.

Next day Rajesh went to the bank and came back within 2 hours and gave passbook back to Vaishali.

Vaishali was shocked!

She found a new deposit of Rs.5000/- again in the passbook. And a line next to the record "This is the day I noticed how much I have loved you all these years. How much happiness You have brought for me and for our sweet home. They hugged each other and cried for some hours. They kept the passbook back in to the safe.

Post to that Vaishali called up her mother. After saying "Hello" she could not talk for few min's and over the phone she started crying. She informed her mother, both of them deposited another Rs. 5000/- in savings account and she kept the phone down.

I really don't know how much they saved till today. But I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone through all the good years in their life.

Mail Received From My e-Friend cum Guru Subodh Narayan Phadke.